Relationships are a huge part of our lives. They can range from close and intimate to distant and challenging. Different types of relationships help make up the social support network that is essential to our mental and physical health. There are four basic categories of relationships: family relationships, friendships, acquaintanceships and romantic relationships. While there are many variations on these categories, there are a few things that most of these relationships have in common:
The ability to communicate openly and honestly. People in healthy relationships are able to discuss their feelings, needs and goals. They can also respect each other’s differences. They do not try to “read each other’s minds” or hold back information that may be important for the other person to know.
They work together as a team. Whether it’s cleaning the house or taking care of the children, they work together to meet their mutual needs. This can also include working together to solve problems and find solutions that will benefit the whole group. They can also agree to disagree on certain issues without resentment.
They support each other. Having someone to lean on, to talk to, and to support you during tough times is a major aspect of being in a relationship. This can include someone to take you to the doctor or when you are sick, someone to cook for you, someone to go out with and share expenses. It can even be as simple as having a friend to have dinner with and talk about your day.
There is a deep sense of meaning in being in a relationship. When you have a partner who understands you and who is supportive of your goals, aspirations and values, it can be very satisfying. It can be therapeutic to have someone who knows your scars, who loves you for who you are and who is committed to supporting you in your journey.
There is a lot of work to do in a relationship, but it does not have to be difficult. While it does take time, attention, importance, thought and action, love can be an anchor that holds it all together. It takes patience, empathy and the willingness to take risks in order to keep a relationship healthy, but it can be well worth it in the end. So, if you are tired of waiting for a text back, staring at your phone waiting for them to call or worrying that you are in the wrong relationship, consider some of the telltale signs that it is really worth the effort. And remember that while other people can be a source of satisfaction, they cannot meet all of your needs. This is why it’s important to have other interests that you can pursue, such as a hobby or a passion for volunteering and community service.